Dating.
Your rules.
Most dating apps were built by men for men. You can tell. talkbeforedate thinks differently: your safety, your pace, your decision — from the very start.
What other apps get wrong
Unwanted messages
Other apps: inbox full of messages from men you never contacted.
Your number too early
After a few messages comes the request for your number — often too early, often uncomfortable.
Looks above all
Photo-based matching reduces you to your appearance. Who you are counts later — if at all.
talkbeforedate — built for you.
You call. Anonymously.
The first conversation with your match happens through the app — no number exchange needed. You hear his voice before you meet in person. And he doesn't get your number.
Your number — always private.
You never have to share your phone number — not before and not after the date. If you meet and it goes well, you decide when and whether to share it.
Who you are counts.
At talkbeforedate, the real conversation — via chat and anonymous call — comes before you meet. You get to know humour, voice and character before making a date.
Meeting up? Your trusted person knows.
Before your first date, you create a private meeting plan in the app — place, time, "safely back by" — and share it with a trusted person. Either via a link you send yourself on WhatsApp, or via an email notification. If you don't check in safely, they get alerted automatically. Without exchanging a single phone number.
"You should never have to give out your number just because someone was nice."
— The principle behind talkbeforedate
Become a founding member
Sign up while your city is still on the waitlist — and keep your permanent early-adopter badge as one of the first in your city.
Find your cityFrequently asked questions
How does talkbeforedate protect me from unwanted messages like on other apps?+
There's no open inbox for strangers. Contact only happens through mutually confirmed interest and runs anonymously through the app.
Do I have to give out my phone number to chat or call at all?+
No, never. Chat and calls run entirely through the app's infrastructure — your number stays private until you decide yourself to share it.
How does talkbeforedate prevent fake profiles and catfishing?+
Verification via Google account and optional photo verification noticeably reduce fake profiles.
What happens if a contact feels uncomfortable?+
You can block and report at any time, without the other person ever having had your number.
Dating on equal terms.
Anonymous, safe — and you decide who reaches you. Start free, at your own pace.
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